What makes Christian/Gideon so attractive?

Hello ladies, let me throw this out there for you, especially considering that most men folk still seems baffled about what we’re getting our knickers/panties  in a twist for. There are blindingly obvious “attractive” things about the male leads in FSOG and Crossfire. Both Christian and Gideon are supposedly hot beyond what’s humanly possible, rich as Bill Gates and demons in the sack so you may ask yourself, what’s not to like? But none of those things are unusual in literary/fictional character’s lives, in fact, they are the norm. So what then girls, is the thing that draws us so much? It’s been suggested to me that we’re drawn to their flawed nature, our motherly instincts wanting to nurture and to feel needed. I this the case for you?

Personally that’s not my thing, don’t get me wrong, I’m as nurturing as the next woman but I’ve never been attracted to someone because of their brokenness. I also think for most women (including me) his love for Ana/Eva is very alluring, the way he all but worships her and makes her feel beautiful certainly plays a role but having said that – for me at least – it’s more. His jealous possessiveness, bulldozing confidence that’s just on the the right side of aggressive and maybe most of all, the way he thinks about sex, not just as an act but how he makes a meal out of seduction, is pant worthy. He enjoys giving her pleasure, in fact you almost get the impression that he lives for it, being very deliberate in what he chooses to do. Dare I say the very epitome of male that feminism has shunned….

What is the thing about these characters that had your toes curling?

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50 thoughts on “What makes Christian/Gideon so attractive?

  1. Hazel (South Africa) says:

    For me it would have to be that Christian’s love for Ana is so strong and true that he never considers being unfaithfull…. I quite frankly would love to have a man worship the ground I walk on for a change!! 😉

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    • Monique Lain says:

      Human nature is a funny thing Hazel. I also find it attractive in the story but I’ve had that in real life and though it starts out nice I must admit that I got so bored I left! LOL! Being faithful though is always a good quality to have and to look for. 🙂 I hear you guys have had a bit of rain…

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  2. Lillimarlene says:

    I think that Christian follows a long tradition of the hero in romantic fiction. Alpha, dominant, troubled but essentially good, the heir to Rochester in Jane Eyre. Overly controlling but he has his lovers best interests at heart. He puts her pleasure before his own, is never too drunk to perform sexually, has a voracious sexual appetite, doesn’t spend the evening or weekend watching sports on TV and never seems to want to spend hours down the pub with his mates.

    As if all the above wasn’t enough, he gives Ana permission to eat and is always praising her appearance. What’s not too love! As for Gideon, I may be in a minority of one but he doesn’t do it for me, he’s just too unstable. More Heathcliff to Christian’s Rochester.

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    • Monique Lain says:

      Good reply! Yea, he just wants to be with her, that’s super hot because he manages to do it without being needy which is so not sexy on a man. Funny how people differ, for me Gideon has eclipsed Christian, it may be the dirty talk… 😉

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  3. grublue says:

    What I love about Christian:

    Definitely the way he thinks about sex. He is faithful to his girlfriend (and even to his subs), he truly enjoys pleasing his girlfrind and puts a lot of thought in seduction or a scene. He’s got a lot of imagination and would never ever ignore the woman’s needs. I also like his attitude towards safer sex (all the tests and stuff).

    His absolute loyalty to Ana, his family his friends (Flynn, Ros, Taylor – yeah, I consider him his friend – even Elena for a very long time), his employees (i.e. Andrea).

    His attitude towards work – not lazy at all, and he loves what he does. His enthusiasm (flying, gliding, sex, business, etc.)

    His good manners. His a little old-fashioned way.

    His jealousy, although I’d tolerate far less than Ana does. 🙂

    His looks. His grey eyes. I only was saw deep dark grey eyes in my life, and I’ve never forgotten them although it’s been about 18 years now…

    I like some flaws because it makes a man interesting and it’s beautiful to see someone overcoming his fears. But I’m not drawn to them in a nurturing way. I also would have treated Christian differently than Ana did in so many occasions – i.e. if he’d threatened to punish me I’d say “Yeah, sure.” with a mocking undertone. And I certainly wouldn’t agree to a contract that practically suggested a Total Power Exchange. But I’m 35 now. Who knows what I would have done with 22. 😉

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    • Monique Lain says:

      So true! At 22 I might just have agreed… LOL! With Christian the TPE isn’t so bad, he isn’t into the whole humiliation thing that usually goes hand in hand with the submission thing so I could live with that in theory but in a real TPE situation, NO WAY!

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      • grublue says:

        Yes, I’m glad he’s not into humilation (or partner exchange), I probably couldn’t have read the novel if he was.

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      • hisboo13 says:

        i sorry if i was 22, 43, or 60 i’m not signing no damn contract that’s taking away my freedom! lol i can’t have nobody telling me how much to eat or saying they are going to beat me. like i really wish somebody would put a hand on me because of my actions i’d be locked up for attempt of murder lol that’s why i agreed with ana when she would be defiant to christian. she’s young and really hasn’t lived life yet and like signing that contract would have been like still having your parents around telling you what to do.

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  4. Audrey says:

    Ahhh… The ultimate question!!
    Thought of it myself few months ago after submitting to fifty shades and letting it dominates my brain.LOL!!

    I like CG better than Gideon.

    I guess why we easily fall inlove with them because of the obvious. Powerful men that are young and great looking. What is there not to like? The bedroom skills are bonus on top of everything else.

    But personally i do like his overbearing, megalomaniac Fifty, the stalker tendency.. Hahahah only because it shows he care and he can!
    In real life..any guy who do that would definitely gives me the creep. Hahaha… Its a primitive way of men claiming stake, i guess. And a boost to our ego that a woman has that effect on such powerful men like them. Furthermore, i guess im a romantic fool who fall in love with the stories for its redemptions of a broken men through love. And the fact that a woman can change a man. Yup!! Ana changed Christian and open so much door for him to gave his fear and insecurities. He’s like her knight shining armour, prince to a cinderella story but above all, she also plays as his saviour. The one person that makes him see lights.

    Errr… Thats just me though.

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  5. Maggie says:

    The question the world is asking us FSOG fans, isn’t it? Won’t speak about Gideon, haven’t read these…feels like cheating 😉

    Aside from all of the very obvious things you state – gorgeous, sexy, wealthy, worshipping – I think for me it’s the confidence and the take charge attitude. Personally, I take on lots of ‘stuff’ in my marriage and though I do it mostly without complaint- what a treat it would be to have someone else take all that off my plate. And it’s not necessarily about the money here, it’s about not having to worry about stuff getting done. He takes such complete care of her, clearly puts her first in ALL things 😉 and sometimes I find myself annoyed that she doesn’t appreciate it…too young to realize how good she has it! Feminism and equal rights aside…I just would love to feel that taken care of. I have a powerful job, was a working mom, yada, yada…don’t feel like I’m going back to the dark ages by wanting to have a man make me feel that way – cherished???.

    Not interested in the broken-ness although it has been a treat to watch Ana’s love help him realize who he truly is. I don’t think she ‘fixes’ him…think she helps him discover himself. E’nuf said….but thanks for asking – that was fun!

    Any chance at a Valentine’s Meander???

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  6. yoi says:

    yoi es una sola verdad nos encanta el romance pero tambien el toque perverso y pocesivo que nos dan los personajes masculinos por que en el fondo toda ser humano tiene ese lado que rara vez sale a la luz, por eso me encanta este blog

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  7. Jen says:

    I’m with you Monique ! That’s why I find them irresistible !

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  8. Katherine says:

    Well I don’t know anything about Gideon still haven’t read the books but for me I think that it is Christians all encompassing love for Ana he absolutely adores her and puts her above all others! We all want that don’t we and we all have it for a while until the kids come along anyway but for Christian Ana will always be number 1 of that I have no doubt.
    Also if thats not reason enough there is the fact that he wants her to eat and hates that she won’t spend his money he lives to satisfy her in the bedroom and he has a red room of pain for kinky fun 😉
    I wouldn’t be turned on by the whole lost boy/damaged persona at all not that I am unfeeling just wouldn’t be my thing to deal with all that but I would probably try for Me Grey 😉

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  9. Davina Knowles says:

    With Christian, as others have said his loyalty, work ethics, the way he views sex and acts on his sexuality, confidence and general need to protect those he loves. I also like his unpredictability and in the moment attitude as life would never be boring. My motto ( More so when i was younger, although still there to a certain degree!!;) ), was ‘I will try anything once and twice if I like it’, so would enjoy this part of his nature. 🙂 I am a nurturing person, but wouldn’t want to ‘mother’ a lover or try and mend him. However as in any relationship would want to support them with finding ‘them self’ if that was what they wanted to do.

    I never felt the same connection to Gideon’s character and feel he is too much on the aggressive side which I don’t feel I personally would be able to handle!!

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  10. Kari says:

    Don’t we usually bring out the best in one another in a relationship? I think that in both couples, while it’s a struggle, that happens.

    Reading FSOG was very eye opening for me in a way that I didn’t expect. You see, I had a Christian in real life. No, he didn’t have his bank account and we had a very vanilla sex life. My husband loved me with the same intensity that Christian loved Ana. Reading that story woke me up from a 7 year coma so to speak.
    I lost my husband 7 years ago in a motorcycle accident and have just sort of been coasting through life, happy, but with an emptiness.
    FSOG made me realize I want that back. I want someone who is concerned about me, who loves me no matter what and will do anything for me. I’m not sure that I can ever find that again, but I do want to try. I sometimes wonder, was my Tom my one true love and will there ever be another or can there be another? I am willing to try….
    That’s what FSOG means to me. That’s what I got from the story. I am a hopeless romantic.

    I loved the Crossfire story, it didn’t have the same impact on me as FSOG did, but I was drawn into the story just the same. I can’t wait for the next book!

    I think too for as strong as women are, that deep down, if they are honest with themselves, they want their man to be in control. Even just a little bit. They might not ever admit that, but I think to a degree it’s true. I don’t mean overbearing control, but that they want the man to be the warrior, the protector.

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    • grublue says:

      Kari, your comment is very touching and it’s really sweet of you you’re sharing it here. I hope one day you’ll find “another true love”.

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    • Monique Lain says:

      Wow Kari, what a touching comment and thank you for sharing that with us. I hope you find that one, I, for what it’s worth is not of the belief that there is only one, keep hoping babe!
      I couldn’t agree with you more on the control thing, so many of us fight the obedience thing in the wedding vows and I can certainly understand the reluctance if it’s not done with love but if a lover has your best interests at heart and loves you he will always put you first. Your service to his leadership are like puzzle pieces in a peaceful life together. Everything works like that, there can be only one “boss”, only one final decision maker, too many cooks spoil the broth and all that…

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      • grublue says:

        I’ll have to disagree here… 🙂
        I like men being in control over themselves and their lifes. Not over me.
        Obedience vows wouldn’t work for me and important decisions imho should be made togheter, although compromises are necessary sometimes. Of course I’d like to be cherished. Of course it’s beautiful to feel protected. But above all I’m glad I know I can protect myself.

        Reading the books I often thought Christian would have gone crazy if it was me (I wish!!) and not Ana, with my indenpendet nature, my travelling alone (what I do if there’s nobody who would come with me), my not asking for permission and my free climbing, although he could join me with the latter and learn some more about trust. 🙂
        But I’m very reasonable and know my limits, and I put my boyfriend above all others.

        Please don’t take offence. People are different I just wanted to clarify that this controlling thing isn’t for me, except if it is in a “playing” context. 😉 If I was into BDSM, I’d probably be a switcher. 🙂

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        • Monique Lain says:

          LOL! No offense taken, that’s why I asked the question, love to see the different aspects, it’s amazing! I know what you mean though about the independence, I have the same steak and at times it’s fierce, I can never ask for help and relying on others is very hard for me but I must admit (under duress only :)) that the times when I’ve managed to try I’ve been pleasantly surprised by the results… I guess what I’m saying is like all modern woman I want my cake and eat it… 😉

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          • grublue says:

            You know, in my early relationships I often kind of felt imprisoned until I understood that freedom doesn’t come with being alone and doesn’t disappear with being in a relationship and jealousy isn’t always a chicanery but sometimes a very appropriate reaction e.g. when I’m too dumb to see that the man I’m befriending and who is not my boyfriend actually wants to get into my panties. 🙂
            The more I love the freer I feel because there is trust which is the most important thing in a relationship for me.

            Out of topic: Not only I’d like to be Ana, I’d also like to be Ros. While reading the books I was very drawn to the idea of working with/for Christian.

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        • Kari says:

          I agree with your comment too. I am very independent and strong willed by nature. My mother raised me that way and I know that I wouldn’t be where I am today with out that. I am just ready for someone to be strong with me, along side me, to share the burden with.
          I am certain that I would have driven Christian over the brink with my independence and free thinking. But then again, I am not a 22 year old virgin! (far from it!) hehehe!

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      • Lillimarlene says:

        Isn’t that the truth. Having experienced the horror of ‘team management’ at work and the endless meetings and power struggles that ensued, I can tell you how much easier things work when I’m in sole charge.

        Submission in marriage is not for everybody but it can make for a harmonious, loving relationship. It needn’t always be the man in charge either, there are plenty of relationships where the woman is the dominant partner and if that’s with the full consent of both parties, it can work equally well.

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  11. hisboo13 says:

    i love Christian! i just love the fact that he’s so powerful and tough but when it comes to ana it’s like he’s a whole different person. i would just love the parts in the story when you saw his vulnerable side especially at the end of fifty shades of grey when ana left him. i felt so bad for him because even though he didn’t know at the time you could tell he loved her more than anything. or when he would always kiss ana and tell her “You. Are. Mine” like i melted every time he said that to her. and his dirty talk always got me especially when he told her he was going to fuck that smart mouth of hers. and when he would be rough with her while having sex like every time in the book when he always took that first thrust it just always gave me shivers. lol i know now i find myself looking for books or fanfictions that have male characters similar to Christian. i love his possessive, jealous, and confidence side also. i would kill for a man like that! lol

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  12. Linda says:

    I loved the FSOG and Crossfire books, but I admit that the flaws in the characters are what makes me read and re-read and re-read them. I think I actually like Gideon a little more than Christian because he communicates with Eva better. I hated the fact that Christian would issue orders and just expect Ana to go along with them when it was obvious that he had explained why he wanted her to do all the security stuff, she would’ve made an intelligent decision. In the crossfire books Eva challenges Gideon’s security measures and they talk about it and he teases her while explaining why they are necessary.

    But yeah, good looking, intelligent, great in bed are all the reasons to fantasize about both characters . . . and to re-read these books and blogs!

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  13. Janien Meissner says:

    Lovely to read all this opinions! For me it’s Christian all the way. And of course for all the reasons above! I am still a romantic girl , after nearly 23 years of marriage! And Christian is perfect in so many ways. Women are very strange ,we want to be cherished, but not to much. We want men to do things for us before we have to tell them. But again, we want to stay independent! I had interesting conversations with my husband about the books and our marriage. He said: you don’t even notice the things I do for you, and how much I love you! I must say, that was an eyeopener for me. Since the books we are closer than ever. And when I’m not wearing my contactlenses at night he looks like Christian…..lol. Try to find Christian in your own husband lady’s and you will be very happy! And for Kari, i do hope you will find that love again! XxJanien

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  14. Sheila Hall says:

    I do not know what it is about the characters Christian and Ana, but I read FSOG so many times, I was beginning to think I was in a loop and could not get out. I liked the character of Christian and I always thought deep down he was a good man, not the rich/bad tempered Dom he protrayed at first. I knew a little about the Dom/Sub lifestyle, once you read the 80 Days books you realise that Christian was even a good Dom as well. They say the love of a good woman will change many men, Christian has all the money and the rich lifestyle but everything changes when he actually falls in love.
    As for Gideon, well I like him, but not as much as I do Christian. Gideon has been told umpteen times by women that they love him, but he had to fall in love himself to really appreciate the feeling and the words.

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  15. grublue says:

    I peeked into the 80 Days books, and from what I saw, I can’t read them.
    Oversteps too many of my personal hard limits. 🙂 Yes, Christian is a nice Dom.

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    • Sheila Hall says:

      Grublue – I have to be honest and say that I agree about the 80 Days books. There were certain parts of the books that made me cringe, some of the Dom/Subs were not so well treated. However it is their lifestyle and it is consent between adults and they seem to like it, although it is not for me. 🙂

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    • Monique Lain says:

      I’ve not read it but if it’s hard core, it won’t be for me either…

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